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Intimate Connections| Media: | Mass Market Paperback | | Author: | David D., M.D. Burns | | Publisher: | Signet Book | | Release date: | 01 October, 1986 | | List price: | $7.99 |
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Doesn't help you find a compatible mate |
| The book focuses on shallow aspects and should be helpful for folks who don't get themselves outside and their face to smile and say "Hello". Following his advice you will learn how to connect to shallow people, who care as much about clothes as you now are told to do. This "Intimate Connections" aren't really intimate at all, so if emotional, psychological or intellectual closeness is what you hope for, it's not in this book. (Again unless your emotion, psychology and intellect follow this book's simple prescription.) |
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Good book with psychological background |
This book is intended for shy and lonely individuals. It focuses on the psychological background of loneliness, shyness and how to make connections with other people. Other aspects of flirting and dating are mentioned (e.g. how to dress, how to initiate a conversation), but not after the reader is familiar with his often distorted thinking processes.
The message is clear: first, you have to really love and accept yourself. Then, you can proceed to getting to know other people more intimately. The book also deals with the not so pleasant aspects of relationships: rejections and fears. Lots of exercises show the reader how to deal with these and other problems.
By and large, a recommendable book! |
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Good but a bit of a mixed message |
| If you are single and/or shy and /or unsuccessful with the opposite sex this is probably the best book on the subject. (For men, I would also recommend Jama Clark's What The Hell Do Women Really Want). The premise of Intimate Connections is that before anyone can love you, you must love yourself. To do otherwise shows you are not thinking rationally. And Dr. Burns tries to reason with the reader--to make the reader see they're not thinking clearly. But if you're not thinking clearly, you may not be able to assimilate this advice. Although perhaps unintentional, this emphasis on loving yourself and first having a good life on your own seems to be (wisely) creating a "fall back" position, in case, after giving it your best shot, things don't happen for you. (Or in therapist's parlance, you are unable to make the necessary changes to make things happen). A minor point is the section where a client feels he has shortcomings that women won't like. After surveying some women, they say these things don't matter to them. This unquestioning acceptance that women know and say what attracts them is kinda naiive for such a thoughtful book. |
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